IN ARKANSAS, the father of a young marine corporal said he believed a nation nation must take calculated risks to maintain maintain its integrity. In Tennessee, a father sobbed as he talked about his only child, an Air Force Academy graduate who loved everyone and believed in his country.

Neither blamed President Carter for the aborted attempt to rescue the hostages hostages at the U.S. Embassy in Tehran, in Which eight volunteers were killed.

George Holmes, an attorney in Pine Bluff, Ark., was informed that his son, Marine Cpl. George Holmes Jr., 22, was missing in action. "I don't have any thoughts that he survived," he said of his son, whose four-year four-year four-year tour of duty in the Marine Corps would have ended ill August.

Holmes, who has two other sons, was not bitter.

"If a country has got any national honor or integrity, it's got to take a calculated risk and attempt a mission like this," he said.

"MY ONLY THOUGHT on it was they didn't do near enough soon enough," he said.

Holmes, who said he had served in the military, said his son had volunteered for the duty and "this is the type of operation they do in the military. It just ran into trouble. Those things happen happen in war."

George Holmes Jr. had been stationed at New River near Jacksonville, N.C., where he was a helicopter crew chief.

About 9 a.m. Friday, Air Force personnel personnel notified Charles T. McMillan Jr. of Corryton, Tenn., that his son, Charles T. McMillan II, 28, was dead.

"When I heard of the raid I thought of Tom," McMillan said.

The Air Force captain, who lived with his wife Janice in Ft. Walton Beach, Fla., had been stationed at Hurlburt Air Force Base in Florida since November. His father said he was aware his son was somewhere in the Mideast.

THE YOUNGER McMillan was graduated in 1973 from the Air Force Academy Academy and had returned in November from a 3-year tour in Germany.

"It is not my place to judge. I don't know all the facts. If we knew everything, everything, then maybe we could. There are so many things we don't know about," the elder McMillan said, at times sobbing. sobbing. "I would like to know all the facts.

"Tom was the type that loved every one. He always thought of others. He was a very good person," McMillan said. "He believed in his country and he believed in its. people."

In Valdosta, Ga., the Rev. Douglas Reddick of Morningside Baptist Church said Mr. and Mrs. H.M. Mcintosh were secluded in grief after learning of the death of their son, Capt. Lynn Davis Mcintosh, 33, who had been stationed at Eglin.

Reddick said, "Everyone here is so confused. It was just awful." He spoke in a phone interview from the parents' home

A FRIEND OF the Mclntoshes told the Valdosta Daily Times the younger Mcintosh's wife, Ann, called friends to say she had been told of her husband's death in Iran.

Herman Lyles, a family spokesman, said Mcintosh was doing "the kind of thing" that appealed to him when he was killed. He said the captain "was a high achiever in every endeavor of life. … So this is the kind of thing he would have done."

Mcintosh, a Valdosta State College graduate, once taught mathematics at a junior high school. He had three sons.

In Roanoke, Va., John and Jean Harvey Harvey said they received a telegram from the Pentagon that their son, Marine Sgt. John Davis Harvey, 21, was dead in Iran.

Mrs. Harvey said her son worked with helicopters and was given a special assignment assignment early this year. He was stationed stationed at Camp Lejeune, N.C., and had lived in Jacksonville with his wife and 2 1/2 year-old daughter.

"IT BOTHERS ME that they didn't get him out of there," the mother said. The bodies of the eight victims were left in the Iranian desert.

Commenting on the mission, Mrs. Harvey said: "I don't think that my opinion is important. It's what Davis .thought. He was happy to be a marine. He was proud to be doing what he was, doing

"I'd rather have my son back," Thelma Bakke, Long Beach, Cal., said when asked about the aborted mission in which her son, Capt. Richard Bakke, 33, was killed.

Bakke, an 11-year 11-year 11-year veteran of the Air Force stationed at Hurlburt Airfield in Florida, was a navigator on the C-130 C-130 C-130 air transport involved in the Iran collision. collision.

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